011 | A White Guy on the Podcast? Don’t Judge a Book by its Cover - with Jay Pryor!
TUR011 - A White Guy on the Podcast? Don’t Judge a Book by its Cover!
Jay Pryor is a speaker, author, and facilitator of corporate trainings and workshops around the world. They are the author of the acclaimed book Lean Inside: 7 Steps to Personal Power: A Practical Guide to Transformation for Women and co-hosted the podcast Doing the Work with Jay and Becca, devoted to awakening people to their own power to transform their lives. Jay is an advocate & educator for inclusivity and gender consciousness and the creator of The Gender Reveal Party, a one-human performance about their experience growing up a transgender non-binary person in the heart of the Midwest.
Jay lives with their wife, Jessica, and two children in Lawrence, Kansas.
Jay joins me today to share their journey to becoming comfortable in their own skin as a transgender/non-binary individual, and the insights they have learned about sexism and male privilege along the way. Jay shares the realizations that have allowed them to offer a unique consulting perspective, as well as views on leadership and accountability. Jay also highlights the role we all have to play in working towards a more equitable professional landscape and the most pressing societal issues that companies need to address.
“I’m a bit of a trailblazer; I’m always going to blaze my own trail.”- Jay Pryor
This week on The Unwritten Rules Podcast:
Jay’s journey to becoming comfortable in their own skin and identity
How the language used within and surrounding the LGBTQ community has evolved over time
The unique perspective Jay has on sexism as a transgender/non-binary individual
How the Me Too Movement dropped the invisible curtain and opened up the conversation about sexism
How the new generation has helped advance the societal discussion about gender
How going off of testosterone impacted Jay
How Jay’s story highlights why you should never judge a book by its cover
The unique perspective Jay has when it comes to consulting women
The entitlement of male privilege and how we unknowingly play into it as women
How male privilege comes into play in the business world
What Jay knows now that they wish they’d known earlier and what they would do differently
The power of mindset and how Jay’s mindset prevents them from slipping into the victim mindset
Jay’s belief in the importance of leadership accountability
The emotional labor that comes with being “the one” and the importance of taking the burden off of women and transgender people when it comes to addressing inequalities
Jay’s perspective on the next generation
What Jay has been investing time in lately
The percentage of millennials and Gen X-ers who have left their jobs for mental health reasons
The definition of spiritual intelligence and why we need to step into it
Our Favorite Quotes:
“The world treats you as what they see.” - Jay Pryor
“One of the things that we have to deal with as women is the part that we play in the systemic sexism.” - Jay Pryor
“I don’t let myself be victimized by anything. I am 100% responsible for it. I create it all.” - Jay Pryor
Resources Mentioned:
Stone Butch Blues by Leslie Feinberg
SQ21: The Twenty-One Skills of Spiritual Intelligence by Cindy Wigglesworth
Connect with Jay Pryor:
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